Safer sex is a way of engaging in sexual activity that is informed, consensual, and decreases the risk of getting sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancy. Safer sex can play an important role in keeping you and your partners healthy.
Contraceptives are tools used to prevent unplanned pregnancy. They are very effective resources if used properly but none are 100% effective.
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Most people don’t know they have an STI because they have no symptoms or they may be embarrassed to talk with a health care provider. Most STIs are easily cured if they are caught early. If left untreated, some STIs can cause reproductive and health concerns. If you are sexually active, take care of your sexual health by getting tested regularly.
What are STIs and STDs?
Sexually transmitted infections and diseases are commonly caused by the spreading of bacteria or viruses that are passed from one person to another through sexual activity.
How does someone contract an STI?
STIs can be spread through body fluids (blood, vaginal fluid, semen/cum, pre-cum and saliva), skin-to-skin contact or through the sharing of needles.
How can I tell if I have an STI?
Many STIs do not show any symptoms, so it may not be possible to know whether someone is infected. Some more noticeable signs of infection may include blisters, warts or sores, but this isn’t always the case. You must be tested in order to know for certain if you or your partner(s) have an STI. Not knowing can be the worst part, if you suspect an STI or if you haven’t been practicing safe sex, be sure to see your doctor or visit your local sexual health clinic.
What are the risks?
How can I reduce my risk?
Get tested: If you have an STI and don’t know it, you can pass it on to others or develop serious health problems if it goes untreated. Get tested to know if you have an STI and get medications if needed. When you are seeing a new sexual partner, getting tested before having sex can help prevent STIs.
Know your options: Some ways of having sex have less chance of passing on STIs than others. Know about sexual activities and related chances of STIs, and choose those that you are comfortable with. Lots of sexual activities that don’t involve sexual intercourse also feel good!
Talk with partners: It can be easier in the heat of the moment when you and your partner(s) have talked beforehand about what works for you. There are lots of ways to start this conversation. Learn more about how to talk about safer sex.
Use protection: Use a new condom every time you have vaginal, anal or oral sex.
In a healthy relationship, both partners:
- are honest with one another.
- can be themselves without feeling judged.
- listen to each other, build up and support one another.
- feel respected, supported and understood
- are comfortable communicating needs and boundaries.
- can discuss what’s important to them.
- give each other space when needed.
People typically talk about consent in the context of some kind of sexual or physical activity with a partner. In a healthy relationship, both (or all) partners are able to openly talk about and agree on what kind of activity they want to engage in. Whether it’s holding hands, kissing, touching, intercourse, or anything else, it’s really important for everyone in the relationship to feel comfortable with what’s happening.
|Sex, Drugs and Alcohol|
Alcohol and other drugs complicate sex because they impair our judgement:
INTOXICATION VS. INCAPACITATIONConsent cannot be given by a person who is incapacitated. Therefore, it is imperative to be able to determine the difference between incapacitation and intoxication. Incapacitation is a state beyond drunkenness or intoxication.
Some signs of intoxication include, but are not limited to:
With their consent, you can have sex with someone who is intoxicated, but it may be worth thinking about why you want to be intoxicated or why you want to be with someone who is intoxicated when choosing to have sex.
If your partner is showing signs of incapacitation, STOP.
CAN YOU GIVE CONSENT WHEN YOU'VE BEEN DRINKING (OR USING OTHER DRUGS)?
Yes, you can give consent if you have been drinking or using other drugs. However, the ability to give consent depends on your ability to make informed decisions free from pressure, coercion, and incapacitation. If you are incapacitated or unconscious from alcohol or other drugs, you cannot give consent.
CAN YOU GET CONSENT FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN DRINKING (OR USING OTHER DRUGS)?
Yes, you can get consent from someone who has been drinking and/or using drugs as long as it is clear, voluntary and unambiguous. Agreeing to have sex can only happen when it is free from undue influence and pressure. Exploiting a person's impairment from the use of alcohol or other drugs is not okay under any circumstances. If someone is incapacitated from alcohol and/or other drugs, they cannot give consent.
If someone has been using alcohol and/or other drugs and you are thinking about having any kind of sexual interaction with them, it is your responsibility to check-in, ask, and make sure they are okay with what is going on. If you are not totally sure they want to have sex, don't have sex. Even if you are intoxicated or impaired by alcohol/and or other drugs, if you are initiating sexual acts, you are still responsible for making sure the person/people want to participate in any type of sexual activity.
WHAT IF BOTH/ALL OF US HAVE BEEN DRINKING (OR USING OTHER DRUGS)?
It's okay to have sex when drinking or using other drugs, but all of the rules of consent still apply and this adds an additional level of trust and responsibility. If there is any uncertainty about whether someone is incapacitated or uncertain, don't have sex.
THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND WHEN DRINKING (OR USING OTHER DRUGS) AND HOOKING-UP
Note: People have different definitions for words such as "hook-up" and "make-out." Be sure that you and your partner(s) are clear about what each of you is ok with.
Information adapted from Dartmouth College Consent
|Intimate Partner Violence|
Sometimes called “domestic violence”, intimate partner violence (IPV) is a serious and widespread problem in which a current or former intimate partner engages in physical, sexual, verbal, or psychological violence or stalking.
IPV is not always obvious, so it is important to be able to recognize its many faces.
Although most people associate IPV with physical harm, it can present itself in many different ways.
A victim of IPV is never responsible for the harm inflicted on them, including whether they are intoxicated and/or under the influence of any substance. Unfortunately, research in Canada has found that certain factors are more conducive with violence, regardless of the victim’s intentions:
Learn more about Lakehead's sexual violence supports and response.
|If your safety is at risk or you need help now|
University Security (Thunder Bay):
University Security (Orillia):
(706) 330-4008 ext 3911
24 Hour Crisis Response Lines:
Assaulted Women's Helpline:
1-866-863-0511 TTY: 1-866-863-7868
Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence Treatment Centre (Thunder Bay):
Sexual Assault Treatment Centre (Orillia):
North Simcoe Victim Crisis Services (Orillia):
Sexual Abuse Centre (Thunder Bay):
Faye Paterson House (Thunder Bay):
Le Centre des Femmes Francophons du Nord-Ouest de l'Ontario:
University is a time when many students begin to sort out their values and figure out who they are. It is not unusual for some students to question their sexual orientation or gender identity and to explore how to integrate these with the rest of their life.
Visit our Pride page to get more information about 2SLGBTIQQIA+ health and wellness.